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Stages of the Work

From p. 382 of The Wisdom of the EnneagramDon Riso and Russ Hudson, 1999 

If we were to really observe ourselves, we would become aware of our habits.
If we were to become aware of our habits, we would let go and relax.
If we were to let go and relax, we would be aware of sensations.
If we were to be aware of sensations, we would receive impressions.
If we were to receive impressions, we would awaken to the moment.
If we were to awaken to the moment, we would experience reality. 
If we were to experience reality, we would see that we are not our personality. 
If we were to see that we are not our personality, we would remember ourselves.
If we were to remember ourselves, we would let go of our fear and attachments.
If we were to let go of our fear and attachments, we would be touched by God.
If we were touched by God, we would seek union with God.
If we were to seek union with God, we would will what God wills.
If we were to will what God wills, we would be transformed.
If we were transformed, the world would be transformed. 
If the world were transformed, all would return to God.

The Waves and The Ocean

Courtesy Sarah Slaughton

During one of his lectures, Thích Nhất Hạnh used a metaphor that involved an ocean with a multitude of waves.

The waves, he said, are you and me and all that appears in the phenomenal world. When we think we are just a wave, we compare ourselves to other waves, hope that our wave lasts a long time, worry about the final down-swing, and feel somewhat small and insignificant.

But if we look further, we see that each wave contains all other waves and they all exist because of each other. We see this in nature, too: what we call a tree is really just a combination of other forms — earth, carbon dioxide, sunlight, elements, etc. — and these too exist only because of other things, in a vast web of total, inexorable interdependence. Looking even further we see that all waves are made of the same water. And though the end of being-a-wave may be terrifying to any given wave, it needn't be, because it is still that same infinite ocean that is the source of all things. We always forget, Thích Nhất Hạnh said politely and kindly, that we are water. We are all manifestations of the eternal, mysterious, beautiful Source. And suffering is a signal — it is a call to come back to this knowledge, to touch it. It is the universe telling us we've forgotten our true nature.

Thích Nhất Hạnh is a Vietnamese Zen Buddhist monk, teacher, author, poet and peace activist.


Growing by changing My Habits

Becoming my best leaderly self, means I grow myself all the time. Here's where I need to grow.

I have a habit of play. I have a habit of getting things done, in a very haphazard, short burst, change focus kind of way. Squirrel! I seldom feel like I am actually accomplishing things well and play ends up feeling like guilty pleasure.

What if I linked the craving for play to the tasks I most need to accomplish? "Get these things done, then you can play. Guilt free." Sounds like a little kid, huh. I'm going to try it.


When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say, 'I used everything you gave me.'
Erma Bombeck

If you want to feel secure
do what you already
know how to do.
But if you want to grow
go to the cutting edge of your competence,
which means a temporary
loss of security.
So...whenever you don't
quite know what you are doing

know that you are growing.